Let’s see what life is like in your team, does it feel good?
Noticing the good stuff
You may already be familiar with the model of wellbeing that I deliver in workshops in a whole variety of workplaces (if not, check out the summary in the video below) but I wanted to focus in on each of the four elements and ask you “what’s it like in your real world right now?”
My very first job
…was in a cafe, an ex Wimpy cafe and still had photos of those strange circular frilly sausages, even though we didn’t sell them.
I had to wear a nylon button up house-coat kind of apron, as we all did, but none of them matched.
One day, the ‘chef’ dropped a burger on the floor and the manager told her not to waste it and served it to a customer.
It might not surprise you to know that it wasn’t just the food that was toxic, the staff relationships were too. Plenty of passive-aggressive behaviour (way before I ever know what it was called) and lots of meanness behind people’s back.
The customers certainly didn’t get a good deal on the service front either.
Culture eats strategy for breakfast
…so said Peter Drucker. I have to agree. Put in context with my work in wellbeing; you can have some great organisational targets but if people communicate badly, or rarely or are mean to each other, you won’t have any real success.
CARE at work
Shall we test your team?
If we just focus on the C of the CARE Model first, C stands for Compassion. And, for very good reason, it’s specifically about self-compassion. It’s about being kind in your mind. So you might wonder how that can be a measure of how well a team is doing.
Why self-talk matters
How does it impact on the culture of a team?
Well it works in two ways…negativity and poor relationships in the team might cause people to have negative self-talk in their heads. And if people in the team already have negative self-talk this might result in a lack of assertiveness, connection and positive connections to encourage teamwork and ‘having each other’s backs’.
Aiming for better
If you struggle with a negative culture at work, or it’s feels good but you know people are working really hard, under a lot of pressure and need to feel maximum support to keep going, read on…
Talk to your team about the power of positive self talk, about how self criticism can trigger stress hormones and how self compassion can boost feel-good chemicals and build confidence and competence.
Practice being kind in your mind and challenge your team to try it to, encourage each other to have a go, and – GENTLY – call it out when you hear people beating themselves up or self doubting.
Have fun with it and let me know how you get on.
If you’re not currently in a team, see how this applies to any group you spend time with, even family – how do they talk about themselves?
If you’d like to ask me about how I help teams implement the whole model, let’s have a chat.