When you’re overwhelmed…
When you’re overwhelmed, it can feel like there’s no hope, no way forward and it’s easy to lose faith in your ability to move forward. You might feel lost, blocked or hopeless.
And I felt it this week.
Whether it’s losing people from your life, world politics or disasters, personal health, wealth or relationships, when things get tough it can be hard to stay optimistic and hard to know what to do to turn things around or to feel better.
I can’t make a difference!
It can seem that whatever we do isn’t going to make a difference, that we can’t fix the problem, we can change what’s happened. My own journey this week has been interesting. Noticing world events, getting sad news from relatives, the amount of pain expressed on my facebook newsfeed, feeling poorly, it was easy to slip into a low mood myself. And then I was reminded me of somethingÂ we can learn and relearn from animals because they do it all the time. What is it?
It’s taking the next step. Breathing the next breath. Just starting from where you are, instead of seeing the task as huge or impossible, or thinking the sadness you feel right now seems unending, you take the next breath.
What’s the right thing right now?
It’s about starting from where you are with what you have and doing what needs to be done next. It’s the cure for overwhelm, it’s as close as we can get to a cure for disasters, grief, illness in fact pretty much any problem.
The question we need to ask ourselves is “What’s the right thing right now?” and doing it. It might be small, ordinary even boring but it’s a step forward. A manageable and simple step forward. And sometimes that might be a totally routine task like brushing your teeth or making some food but it’s focusing on one step forward.
Famous quote time
Ramm Dass, all round famous guru type chap said this: “We’re all just walking each other home”.
You wouldn’t believe the things I was questioning this week – the the future of humans, animals, the planet, whether I’m following the right purpose in life, whether I’m giving enough, even the purpose of life itself – yes, it’s been a deep week! – and by the end, I was able to come back to this; we’re just all walking each other home. And if on the way, we help a little, if we hold someone’s hand while they find their footing again and they hold ours when we need to find the way, then we’re doing ok. One step at a time. Taking the next breath.
Let’s not worry too much about the big questions. I figure that if we get the little things right, Â focus on the right thing in each single, small moment, the big things will stack up ok too. And if by doing that we stay calm and avoid overwhelm, then we are in a better place to tackle the big things when they arrive.
Whatever you’re facing right now…
Whatever you’re facing right now, big shocking things or niggly everyday challenges, or everything in between, remember there are people walking with you, lighting the way, holding your hand. Whether in person, in spirit (or by phone, or social media!) they’re urging you, to just keep on taking the next breath. And so am I.
I’m urging you and I’m reminding myself.Â You don’t have to walk alone. You just keep taking the next breath and the next step. We’ll walk each other home.
With all my love,