The danger of dirty hands

(spoiler: it’s not about germs)


There’s something I’ve been doing for years and had started to take for granted that I want to share with you this week.  I shared it with my mum, she used it immediately and she thought it was worth sharing too!



Bugs. Not the germy bugs, I’m talking about the people or situations that bug you. The ones that make you chew over the possible responses, who said what, what you coulda woulda shoulda done.

Also, the people and situations that were just plain tough. The difficult conversations, the emergencies, fire-fighting and problem solving. The times you’ve listened to the traumas and stresses of people you care about. The complaints and criticisms of other people that aren’t even about you but which drain your energy.


Now please wash your hands

Now please wash your hands. It’s as simple as that. Give it a go, don’t knock it til you’ve tried it. There are 2 important parts to this…

  1. Notice something is bugging you
  2. Go wash your hands


How to wash your hands (seriously?!)

It’s as simple as washing your hands but to do so consciously and mindfully. As you are washing, breathe long and deep, relax the muscles of your face, head, neck and shoulders. Soften your tummy muscles. Stand with your feet balanced.

Take your time, choose what feels like the right water temperature and preferably soap you like the smell of  (or whatever there is) and wash your hands carefully. As you rinse thoroughly and for longer than you usually might, let the water flow, imagine you are washing off any negative energy, unhelpful thoughts, lingering imagined responses and imagine that you are watching all of that go down the plughole.

Notice how you feel then carefully, thoughtfully and kindly dry your hands thoroughly. Doing this simple job with more care and thought can make a huge difference to how much stress you’re collecting up through the day.


Have fun

We often think we’re too busy to relax, we’re too stressed to switch off. We don’t get round to doing those things we need for our health and wellbeing. My mission is to help you get the habit of lots of little changes that are just a part of your ordinary day, easy, simple, take no time and therefore you do get round to them. Have fun with this, once you have even the simplest strategies to release stress or not even pick it up in the first place you can start to see the difference in the way you approach challenges and the tougher days.

I’d love to know if you try it and how you get on. Of course you can also use the ‘JUST let go’ technique if you’ve already learnt that one with me or combine the two! Keep your stress low, you are precious.

If you haven’t already tried it, check your burnout risk is by doing my 15 question burnout quiz

Have a fabulous week my fabulous friend. You don’t have to carry on carrying around the muck, just wash it off 😉


Much love

Pam x





2 responses to “The danger of dirty hands (it’s not about germs)”

  1. Pam Hutley says:

    ‘I’m going to wash that grief right out of my hands…’ (could have been a song)
    Thanks Pam- great advice.

  2. Simon says:

    Now if I’d found the time to read this yesterday when I was meant to it would have been perfectly timed as something/someone was really bugging me! Still, better late than never. I will try it the next time something is bugging me. I’m sure I won’t have to wait long! Thanks Pam.

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